sex, public sharing and insecurities of those who tell them

It seems like the general knowledge that people that share sexual experience in public, like a bar with a group of friends, are more likely than not to be share not only the experience of sex but also sharing there insecurities. To grab attention in this matter, some believe this a cheap way to be a center of attention.

Yes, it is sensational. Yes, it is a attention getting. It's an "easy" way to connect other another person. But connecting to other people is not always easy. When you are in a big group and/or a new group we generally limited to shared experiences. This is very "base". To reach the most people, you have to go to the lowest common denominator. Sex is clearly one of them. This is why when you go and see a comedian more often than not they talk about sex in some part of there show. We all understand something about sex. And to share this experience, not only to another person but group... shows courage??

Is it possible in the mist of talking about how you physically connected with another person, you may connect in non physical way with the person you are sharing your experience with. People seem to in general have trouble talking about higher ideas and concepts. But details,everyday-ness and things that are base come easily to most of us. For questions like...

Who are you?
What is your purpose?
Are you happy?
How do you deal with idea that the people that made you, will leave you...
Do people really like me for me?
Am I worthy of being loved?

We can't ask people those types of questions. We can't ask those questions to new people in our life. But I can trivia thing... details and people are ok with that.

Where did you go to school?
Where are you from?
What's your favorite food?
Do you have siblings?

We can all ask these types of questions to one another. Without weirdness, without being social awkward details and trivia matters are generally the conversation of the day. For me, it is how one has those everyday conversations with another person that reflects on the security of how they relate to one another.

But sex is different. It is very intimate. It's very personal. It has crossed over in way, because it something very private but it can asked about in a group. You can be playful about it. You can be defensive about.

Sex is that question that you can get a quick looking into the private of life of those who choose to answer. So, I say... share if you can. And if you can't...