Friday, July 26, 2013


One year ago today, I when on a second date. The first date didn't stick because the second date was six months later. But that is nor here or there. 

But I'm left with, what does this mean? I'm no longer a spring chicken. (Why do people use that phrase?) Questions of our future pop to mind, but no answers or clear picture of what I want it to be follow. 

It has been a good year, good with her. I'm focusing on that. 

Saturday, July 20, 2013

President Obama and Trayvon Martin

First off, this Trayvon Martin verdict, trial and killing is not sitting with me very well. I know that I'm not alone with this. All the news, TV, and radio that I have been hearing supports that.  To generalize,it has mostly be minorities that have responded to verdict. Most of my whites friends it seems to be a non event. There are exceptions, I had a friend on the day after comment, "how can we be having such a wonderful Sunday the day after a terrible verdict".

But this brings to me out President. He has voiced that he has similar feelings about this case as do many black American. He has explained what and how he(we) feel the way we do. "If I had a son, he would look like Trayvon", "I was Trayvon 35 years ago". Being that he understands, I don't envy his dance. Zimmerman was found not guilty by a jury of his peers. Implying that any of the jurors would have done the same if in the shoes of Zimmerman.  The president the most powerful man on the planet, is powerless in the matter. I can only imagine how he feels about that. At the same time, he can't voice the flaws in the system that he is the head of. He can't voice that those jurors were wrong. He can't voice that he is impotent in the face of racism.

What is any black man to do... If the most powerful black man on the planet, can't do a thing about it. 

Monday, July 01, 2013

Me and the Man of Steel

On Sunday morning,  en route to see some friend that has come from out of town. A woman stops me frantic.  She tells me that she is locked out of her client's house. She explains that he is a nurse's aid. Her client, my neighbor does not have use of her legs and she is sitting in the bath. She did not have a her phone with her. She only been working on this job for 2 days so not understanding that the door to the apartment automatically lock behind you.  So we walk around to see if we can climb to window so she can get back in. We didn't see a way. I called to the police because I don't know this woman. But the first 911 operator suggested that we look for someone that might have a key to the apartment. Because all they could do is break the door down.Called the grounds keeper. His phone was off got his machine and tried to get the emergency number for the apartment building. The nursing aid and when to check the door, we could hear her screaming for help. Dialed 911, they sent the firemen. They crow barred the door. Find the woman inside fine but just scared.

I saw the new movie "Man of Steel" later that day.  It made me reflect on my experience earlier in the day. Reflect of the Superman tales that I was raised with. Happy that I stopped to help that woman in need. Maybe helping that woman was a brief moment in the sun for me, just like the man of steel.

Friday, June 28, 2013

Let's be ...

"Racial hostility, homophobia and misogyny are braided together like strands of the same rope. When we fight one, we fight them all." -- Charles M. Blow

I love sediment here. But couldn't we simplify it by saying,  if you fight against any injustice, you fight against them all?

I guess I know why it is not phrased like that. Most likely I'm in the minority that believe.  Maybe it is to naive to believe that all injustice share the same root. Maybe only racism, homophobia and sexism have a common root. 

Isn't injustice, simply ... the lack of fairness based on traits and/or facts that should not lead any responsible person to believe someone is less human, less deserving or less equal.

Let's be for fairness ... Let's be for justice ... Let's be for each other.

Thursday, June 27, 2013

To be of Comfort

This is week my friend's brother died. He died of a heart attack at the age of 27. They don't know the root cause of the attack.  The medical staff had to induce a comma. One week later the family decided that he would not wish to live this way. They unplugged him and he passed three days later.

I have called my friend. I have visited my friend. I have given wine.I have tried to be there for my friend. I have played with her 3 year old nephew. But I'm not sure I'm any comfort to her. 

I can't imagine what the last couple of weeks has been like for her, for family. Something that we can't make sense of.  I know that we all grieve in our own way. I don't know when I have seen her, she still in shock. Or if she has broken down in private. But her has seemed strong. 

In the days, weeks and months to come, I hope to be a comfort.

Friday, March 09, 2012

Don't feed the ...

In this election cycle the poor and the state of being poor has been getting some national attention. This article was discussed on BlackingItUp. I am in line with the BlackingItup crew with their stance on the GOP brand of social justice. Simply, it sucks and is incomplete.  I think the GOP stance can be summed up as, we are about the money, what the fuck is a safety net.

But I'm posting this because I was faced with this question several hours after I heard the show. On my commute home, at a stop light, I'm greeted by a panhandler. Do I feed the poor ... with the change that is looking at me in my cup holder. OR IGNORE and wait for the light to change.

We have all been in this situation. And we all have made this choice. Some of us, have an internal  policy about this..

The choice I made in that moment was in line with the GOP line of social justice....

I have been pondering if that is a fair comparison? Was my choice no different then want the GOP has put out there.

Tuesday, December 20, 2011

Let's talk about Poverty

So, the Gene Marks thing is over a week old and I agree that the tone, lack of understanding and platform that it was delivered was off. The criticism that he has gotten has been well deserved. But I think there's a part of the conservation that I think gets overlooked, because it is not as explosive as who, where and why those comments are made. I think this part of the conservation was overlooked when similar questions were raised when Bill Cosby spoken on similar matters.

What do we (as a society, a people) do about the poor!!

There has been several articles about it. The Atlantic, the New York Times and others have covered it. Race and class are traditional hot pots that our society at time touch without over mitts. The natural course of action occurs, someone gets a little burned. When we do talk about it our conservation range from; poor people are simply lazy and it is there f@#$ fault that they are poor, to poverty is an affliction and not there fault. Part of the reason I think we range so greatly in opinion about this is because it the question seems similar to fate vs. free-will questions and how is man governed. We don't want to think that the poor does not have agency in there lives (that's un-American) but at the same time we don't want to dismiss the extreme environment that being poor creates.

We all get affected about this, society at large. This comes into focus for me because I get asked to talk to children that are poor. I get asked to talk to poor black children. Simply because I'm a black professional. I generally speak to them about being exceptional. Ask them to find and culture their inner-Oprah. I'm asked to show them you can get out with skills other then sports, with a hot jump shot or slanging the rock. Biggie, left out a few alternatives. I'm a better alternative... I'm to be emulated. Or I least that is why I think they are asking me to talk to these children. What I'm fighting in these children is a reasonable position of "fuck it!!" I'm poor and there isn't fuck all I can do about it! I'm going to sit in the corner and fold my arms and let that be that.

What I'm looking for along side of the criticism of the Gene Marks and Newt Gingrich  is that exceptional-ism does not have to be rare. If one man has done it, so can you. I'm concerned with our criticisms that people in these situations, could hear and believe that we are implying ... your fucked son, and there ain't shit you can do about it.

Let the other side be heard... you can be an exception, your value is not wrapped in dollars and cents but what you can add to this world. We know this to be true and we expect it from you.

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